Resolutions: Yes or No?
By Megan Davis
We’ve all been there: New Years is around the corner and we promise ourselves that we'll do things differently, but how long do they actually last? Do people still make them? I decided to ask some students and find out. The results were incredibly mixed. I will be listing the answers in bullet points from negative to positive to comical & short.
First, we’ll start with the slightly negative yet realistic answers so that we can get down to the more motivating stuff. Although some of these answers might seem cynical, it's hard to argue that they don’t carry merit. Some of these are brutally honest, but I think a point a lot of people made was that if you really wanted to achieve something or quit something or make yourself better in some way, you wouldn’t have to wait until New Years to start doing it.
- “I didn’t (and never really do) make a New Years resolution. I believe waiting for a specific time to start doing something is pointless because if you wait to start to begin with then you are not as committed. If you are, then you can start something or stop something anytime."
- “No, I did not make a resolution this year because I know I will not stick to it. For example, last year I tried to make the resolution to pass my driver's license and it didn’t work.”
- “No, I have not made any resolutions for this year because every time I make them I never stick to them, and this year I didn’t want to yet again be disappointed by myself, so in a sense that was my New Years resolution, the circle of life.”
- “I didn’t actually make a New Years resolution, I figured, why put myself under so much pressure, which will likely backfire, when I finally reach my goal when I can gradually try to change things. When you set yourself a fixed goal, it's easier to get disappointed and abandon hope when s**t hits the fan, but if you decide to do your best in a direction, the added flexibility makes it easier to bounce back and keep going.”
- “I didn’t because I don’t think its important, New Years resolutions are only to make people feel better about their 1st year's failures, and if they aren’t giving up at least they will have the satisfaction of ‘trying’ then it starts over again, it’s a circle. Lame a** resolution.”
One student, in particular, said she did not make a resolution but for a very positive reason. She said, “The answer to be honest this year is I didn’t make a New Years resolution because I have everything I want right now.”
Another friend of mine, when asked the question, admitted he did make a resolution however he generally finds them rather cliché. He said “I do have a resolution but I don't know if its completed until next New Year but so far it's on track. I generally find New Year's resolutions to be cheesy and pretty much just lying to yourself (for the most part) and I don’t like the fact that it encourages waiting to better yourself instead of just doing it before New Years.”
Now I will list the more positive goal orientated resolutions for those who said yes. Many of these answers were really positive and aimed towards being healthier or studying/working harder and bettering oneself.
- “So I decided to do a New Years resolution with my girlfriend this year because I know that if I do it alone it won't last. So this year I wanted to quit smoking and doing it with my girlfriend helped a lot because we support each other when we feel less confident in our resolution. Yes, it's working so far, so sometimes I think its best to do a resolution as a couple or with a loved one.”
- “Yes, my resolution is to work out more, to be a vegetarian again and sometimes its difficult because of the menu options at restaurants but so far its really working out well.”
- “I do love resolutions because I always try to have goals and stuff to work towards. My resolution is basically to reach my goal weight (60% of the way there, with like 20% of that having been achieved since December) so that’s going well. My second one is to get my GPA to over 3.5 so I guess its too early to speak on that but I’m definitely going in the correct way.”
- “My New Years resolution is to be healthier in mind and body. It's going well, I have to work at it every day.”
- “Yes, and so far I’m sticking to them. I’m taking my art seriously and being healthier. I do my makeup all the time and I dance four times a week and I’m going to start performing soon.”
I had some very blunt & short answers. Some were rather comical.
- “I think its b*****t. I think its just a way for people to procrastinate getting better.”
- “Nope, no resolution. Because I never keep them,”
- “Yes, I did. I decided to ‘give up on women’ and focus on making money so that I will be more attractive to them in a few years’ time.”
- “My New Years resolution was to not care so much, and to be honest, now that I’m far from home its going motherf*****g great!”
- I didn’t make a resolution. I was busy getting wasted and having a hangover.”
I think that there was a fair amount of people who said yes and a fair amount who said no. What I did notice is that those who said no for resolutions had similar reasons, and those who said yes had somewhat similar resolution goals. I will end my article with a direct quote from a student here at TCC that I thought was particularly well said.
“Year by year we hold ourselves to behavioral contracts brought on upon by the holidays. To show our partners love on Valentine's, express generosity on Christmas, and improve ourselves with the ringing in of the new year. New Years is especially guilty of such momentary sincerity that may be seen in the wave of fad diets, gym subscriptions, etc. Why not live and love ourselves each and every moment? I would wager that we all might benefit by celebrating daily rather than annually.”